For parents of teens

Kids this age absorb a lot of new information as they watch the world around them (sometimes more than we want them to!). Spend quality time with your preschooler to create an environment where your child will feel comfortable coming to you to ask questions or discuss their feelings, ideas and opinions.

Making responsible choices around alcohol is also a powerful way to model positive behaviour. When you set a good example from an early age, your child is more likely to make responsible decisions about drinking later on if they choose to drink.

At this age, children learn about alcohol from social media, TV, movies, and what they see in everyday life. Talk with them about what they’ve noticed and ask simple questions to help them think critically (for example, “What happened next?” or “Was that a smart choice?”). Many kids this age are also curious about how the body works, so you can explain how alcohol affects the brain and body.

Stick to the facts. Explain that alcohol is for adults, and that adults who choose to drink should do so responsibly and in moderation. Reassure your child that you’re making safe choices, and that their job is to avoid alcohol until they’re older. The key message is that alcohol isn’t safe for kids, and adults who drink should do so responsibly.

Pre-teens are doing more things on their own, including choosing their own friends who will have influence with them.

• Know your child’s friends and meet their parents when possible.
• Be aware of where your child is and who they’re with.
• Set clear expectations regarding alcohol and drinking, whether in the home or outside of it.

At this age, children begin to understand the concept of actions and consequences. Discuss things like:

• Laws regarding alcohol – age limits, misuse, impaired driving.
• Responsible drinking – including parental expectations and moderation.
• Family history if it involves alcoholism.
• More detailed effects of alcohol use on the body.
   

Opportunities to try alcohol are increasingly present as teens get older. Stay involved in your child’s life and be aware of who they are with and what they are doing.

• Reaffirm expectations regarding alcohol and drinking, and stick to them.
• Have family dinners that encourage open conversation.
• Answer your teen’s questions honestly.

When your teen wants to invite friends over:

• Be clear that house rules extend to guests.
• Confirm who they plan to invite and tell them to stick to the agreed-upon guest list.
• Encourage them to invite a responsible friend to act as the party’s “co-host” to provide support if needed.
• Plan activities beforehand. Make sure guests know not to bring alcohol.
• Serve food and non-alcoholic beverages.
• Let your child know they can contact you for help if necessary.
• Have your teen keep you informed of their plans. Check in regularly, but not obsessively.

Young adults are more likely than older adults to consume alcohol in risky or dangerous ways, without considering short- or long-term consequences. Even though the decision to drink alcohol is ultimately theirs when they turn 18, you are still a big influence in their life.

• Encourage your child to consume alcohol responsibly.
• Be involved in their life, even if they aren’t at home.
• Encourage your child to plan ahead, if they’re drinking. Suggest a designated driver, taking a taxi or bus, or sleeping at a friend’s. Never tolerate impaired driving.
• Remind them to eat before they go out and while they’re drinking.
• Encourage them to pace themselves, to be aware of their limits, and to keep track of how many drinks they consume.
• Tell them to never leave their drinks unattended.
• Remind them to keep their cell phones fully charged in case they need to call or text you.
• Avoid pre-event drinking.